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I believe there could be a reason for that belief. I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or other professional mental health professional. My experience comes from being a peer counselor, trained by the company I worked for, to be available to listen and assist fellow workers, needing to find a way to cope and communicate their needs to someone who could be of service. I also learned what to listen for and how to help others get through tough situations. The most important part was to direct those in need to resources who could provide assistance. I also worked with Adult Children of Alcoholics support groups for several years. It’s obvious there exists a great need for you to be the focus of the conversation. The best way to describe it is through your own posts that elude to the need to be the most important source of focus while at the same time, making it clear you feel victimized by almost every situation presented. It’s as if you feel you must have the control while being almost exhausted by trying to be central figure of a situation beyond your control. TOSC is a site for those who support the endeavors of Sun City. Your unreasonable need to try to control the narrative by creating a sense of havoc with attacking those who have a collective interest in the betterment of the community is a clear sign of a need for additional resources beyond what we, the posters, can or will support. You assert your right to post your opinion on this site, doing so with such malicious content, is clearly your attempt to control the community posting here. Then to devolve into why you, personally, have been wronged, without any regard for what your postings have done to others, is a clear indication of your great need for additional resources beyond those available here. It’s got to be extremely exhausting to you to want recognition for your positive actions that have produced little emotional support. You do much for your neighbors but are not being fulfilled by these actions. You are not receiving the positive reinforcement of the energy you are expending, so instead, you are going out of your way to demean others who do support each other in this forum. If you reread the comments you have listed on this site for the last 24 hours, and just read the words, and remove your emotional attachment to them, can you say they are not hurtful, demeaning or disrespectful? I have said before you have a great grasp of the written word, that talent really needs to be used in a more productive manner. TOSC is not the forum for you to ever get the resolve you need. I don’t know if going to a site such as the suicide help line may have resources to redirect your anger and frustration with life, but the answers needed for your success are not here. Those posting on here are not going to support your efforts to sabotage your own well being or this site. Now, you will go to shredding me and my efforts apart. I know this of your behavior and it’s fully expected. Kill the messenger rather than pay attention to the message. It’s most predictable. Do know that someone made an effort to try to have you seek the help you desperately need.
Who are you speaking to? I have many interesting posts of you diagnosing people. You could not just let it go and go forward. Oh Carole, I am really sorry for you. You recently made a post about yourself being a toothless lady who had two strokes. I hope you recover. Allow me to further offer my qualifications for the position on the board. I am a retread, or otherwise known as a former board member trying to be a current board member. Most everyone finds retreads to not be wanted and not the most desirable choice. Yippee, sign me up! I was a board member during a time when I couldn’t get anything done because there was a theme to that particular board, and nothing I supported met the criteria. So, I know how to present a filibuster style argument to try to convince others to vote my way. Doesn’t usually work, but it does make sure others know the topic will probably come up again. I trust the other members to be working for the same goals I have, and place a lot of respect for those that have also volunteered. I don’t support taking the summer off, there’s just too much to get done. I believe the reallocation of the work to other teams will help facilitate making time for the pressing outstanding issues. My agenda requires that every other director be available to help shape a new vision for the board. Pretty darned snooty of a retread to believe that the team can do the impossible in short order, isn’t it? I believe this board can do amazing things when tasked with expectations beyond the usual. Imagine a frumpy 70 year old toothless woman sitting in front of the membership, as a representative of the board? Imagine this same old woman having ideas that can reshape the current mindset in ways that can make the RCSC shine in new ways just based upon strategic planning. Okay, so I have had a few strokes, that makes my mind still sharp, just has a few rough edges. The focus is spot on and the vision of what could be is clear. Just takes everyone to share the desire. Now, there’s my application for consideration. A retread who can see where the future of the board could be. Any takers? No clamoring for the exit, keep it nice and orderly please. CMartinez, Apr 29, 2025Re
And so you did. Feeling better about yourself? I take ownership for what I do, can you claim the same? Or do you blame everyone else for everything else? I”ll even take it a step further. I praised the board for their work and thanked them for their time. I admired their work ethic in pursuing the same goals. I made suggestions about reducing the work load and you think the main message was my strokes and being toothless? You believe this is a denigrating fact about me? What have you posted about yourself that offers praise to others, supporting the community and the board for the good it’s doing? Nope just eluded to a female octogenarian. Who won’t admit her fears of being old and near the end. Rather, being hateful and caustic to everyone who have a common goal of benefiting their community. Please, keep reposting my comments, it makes it easy advertising for my run for the board. Why? It proves I am human, I believe in myself and my ideas, and I support the efforts needed to make this a better community with the ideas I have written. I will ask you to be my media manager, just keep writing about me so I stay in the forefront of the conversation., gives you a purpose of trying to tear me down, whilst actually benefiting me by making my name a well known commodity.
Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It's not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument, or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make. Period.
